Hexagram 44
Coming to Meet
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☰ Heaven above, ☴ Wind below
Under the wide heaven the wind rises and presses softly into every crack: the image of the small that is already inside everywhere before anyone notices.
The JudgmentComing to Meet: the maiden is powerful. One should not marry such a maiden. What presents itself as small and winning carries the seed of dominion within it: the danger of this sign lies not in what it is, but in what it becomes once you let it in.
The ImageUnder heaven, the wind: the image of coming to meet. Thus acts the prince when he spreads his commands and proclaims them to all four quarters. The wind reaches everywhere and touches everything: so the inconspicuous finds its way in everywhere, for good as a deliberate message, for ill as a creeping influence. Not proclaiming means being crept up on.
InterpretationOne weak line enters from below into a strong whole: the unexpected, seductive small thing that presents itself and looks innocent. It appears with the charming exception, the convenient compromise, the small habit, the winning newcomer with an agenda. The sign does not ask for suspicion of everything new: it is about the pattern, not the person. The core of the warning is not that the evil is great, but that it grows: what asks a favor today demands the house next year. So test everything that presents itself as small for its direction of growth: where does this want to go, what will this become once it is stronger? Saying no costs almost nothing on the first day and grows more expensive every day after. And the reverse holds as well: consciously use the power of the small yourself, like the wind that reaches everywhere with a clear message.
Place in the sequenceAfter 43, Break-through, the way has been cleared, and on a cleared way something is certain to come to meet you. Therefore Coming to Meet follows. It forms a pair with 43 · Break-through.
Nuclear hexagram
The nuclear hexagram of Coming to Meet is 1 · The Creative: Primal power that wants to create: everything succeeds for those who persevere in what is right, for success here is not a matter of luck but of staying power. It is formed from the inner lines and shows the hidden core of the situation.
The six lines
These texts belong to changing lines in a reading, from the bottom up.
Six at the beginning
Hold it fast with a bronze brake:
perseverance brings good fortune. If it is allowed to run loose, misfortune follows: even a scrawny pig has the makings of rage in it. The first day is everything: tie down the intruder at once, with a bronze brake, not a string of good intentions. It looks weak now (a scrawny pig, almost pitiful), but the capacity to rage is fully there. Addictions, creeping arrangements, small boundary crossings: all scrawny on day one. Braking on day one is light work; wait, and you will soon be braking against a full-grown beast.
Nine in the second placeruling line
There is a fish in the tank:
no blame, but not favorable for guests. The evil is inside, but it sits in the tank: under control, in your keeping. Keep it there. Do not spread it, do not serve it to guests, give it no stage and no onward passage: a problem contained is half solved, and a problem in circulation is doubled. This is the line of quiet stewardship: not everything in your keeping needs to go out into the world. Some fish stay in the tank until they stop wriggling on their own.
Nine in the third place
No skin on the thighs, and walking comes hard.
Staying aware of the danger, one commits no great mistake. The temptation has already touched you: walking is laborious, the pull is palpable, the calm is gone. You are no longer unscathed, but you have not yet fallen: keeping the danger clearly in view in this state, you commit no great mistake. You need not deny the attraction; you only must not hand it the wheel. Walking wounded is still walking; keep your eyes open and your direction firm.
Nine in the fourth place
No fish in the tank:
that leads to misfortune. The tank is empty: the ordinary people, the small connections, the daily loyalties, you have lost them through neglect or haughtiness. For a long time that seems unimportant, until the day you need them and no one is there. If you let the people beneath and around you thin out, you stand alone at the moment of truth. Maintain your tank: the greetings, the small kindnesses, the real listening. Foundations are invisible until they are missing.
Nine in the fifth placeruling line
A melon wrapped in willow leaves:
hidden lines; then it falls to you from heaven. The melon here is the lesser itself: sweet, perishable, and impossible to root out. The strong one does not rage against it but covers it, as leaves shelter a fruit: he tolerates the lesser in his circle while keeping his own strength hidden, without display and without sermons. Thus, strong within and mild without, he keeps the small in check without forcing anything: in its own time the outcome falls to him of itself, like a gift from heaven. Not rooting out but taming; not parading but carrying.
Nine at the top
He comes to meet with his horns:
shame, no blame. At the end of this time stands someone who wards off the advances with the horns: too old, too wise, or too tired for the game of the winning. The world calls that haughty, and so be it: no blame. There are phases of life in which no longer being available for every charm, every request, and every network is simply the right answer. Guarding your boundaries with the horns, you miss some good company and keep yourself; that trade is allowed, and sometimes required.